While the teen years may seem long to many parents, they really do go by faster than you might expect, and before you realize it your child will be leaving home. That said, there is still likely plenty for your child to learn, and you may be wondering how you can prepare them for adulthood without pushing them away. Anyone with teens will often feel that their children are not listening, but put that aside and understand they still need you! Being a parent requires patience and work and most importantly of all, working on ourselves so that we can be great role models. Lets take a look at some ways you can gently help your teens during this crucial phase in life.
Help Them Investigate A Range Of Career Options
It’s common for students to change their major once they are in college, and it can be challenging to find the right career path. Consider helping them figure out their strengths and weaknesses and how these may impact their career of choice. Encourage them to write down details about each career they are considering so they can compare the pros and cons of each career path. Talk to them about how they plan to cover the cost of their degree as well. It’s common for college students to take out a loan for their college expenses, but it’s not as simple as going to the bank and asking for a loan.
Because a person of this age group often has no credit history, many lenders won’t offer a loan unless there is a cosigner. Students often find it difficult if their parents are unable to cosign, and you may be wondering if you must cosign on a loan. If they show a particular interest in a certain area, help them get some hands-on experience before comitting. Internships or apprenticeships are a great way to really get a close look at the desired career, and shadowing a few professionals to learn more is also a great idea. Encourage them to record their experiences so they can consider carefully consider all the new information they've gathered.
Teach Them How to be Financially Responsible
Money might be something you struggle with, and as you plan your family’s financial future you may not feel up to the task of teaching your child how to manage finances. But if your child has no information on how to manage their money, they may find themselves under a mountain of debt after college. Many struggle to get out of debt once they are in it, so even before college do encourage your child to get a job so they have some of their own money to manage. Encourage them to save some money and use some for their own needs, whether that’s a new outfit, a phone, or fun items. When they oversee their money, they will be able to develop a better idea of measuring wants and needs versus budget.
Set Aside Time to Connect Each Week
When your child goes off to college, you won’t have as much time to connect with them, even if they still live at home. College is very demanding, and your child may struggle to find time to connect with you each week. So don’t wait until they are in college to express your love and to have meaningful discussions, rather take advantage of the time you have right now, and remember of course that 9 out of 10 statements should be positive, with only one negative!
Set up a time once a week or every other week to be with them. This shows them you care about what is happening in their life, and it gives you a chance to talk. Your teen may have questions that they didn’t have time to ask, or you may want to gently bring up topics that may need consideration. Don't forget to do something fun during these weekly outings, or it can even be something simple like going out for coffee, taking a walk, or doing a fun activity together. The main thing is to treat your child with consideration and respect while still maintaining your loving role as a parent.
Wishing you all the very best and may all the fruits of your labors lead to well adjusted children who can give back and enjoy life.
